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How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

15.06.2025 13:23

How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

By learning to validate what the other is feeling. “I can absolutely see why you feel this way.”

By internalizing that responding with kindness is strength, not weakness.

By resolving to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness.

Can you explain the difference between being a conservative Republican and a liberal Democrat? Can you provide some examples of their ideologies?

By taking turns talking.

By deciding to stop with the criticism and the nagging and instead say thank you for everything you do for me. Thank you for loving me.

By wanting to truly understand each other, despite feeling unheard.

Why do I want to be caught sucking dick by my wife?

By giving up the notion that someone has to “win” or that anyone loses by saying “you are right”, “I am sorry”, or “I can do better.”

By keeping in mind it’s OK to have different opinions and different experiences, and they both matter in equal measure.